Family Values

Any citizen, family member is brought up,studies and in some countries they share their finances  with the siblings,relatives and even to the country through taxation. In Africa we have what we call Black Tax where you are expected to "feed financially and the distant family.That will be taken as 1.Responsibility 2.Love 3.Caring 4.Nurturing and it brings the 1.Unity 2.Togetherness 3.Appreciation 4.Progressive If that does not happen 1.Enmity is created. 2.More invasion in your privacy  3.Your life becomes more difficult  4.All the methods of exterminating your life is explored. This does not only happen only in Africa. Although the other races are doing it in the civil way there are certain  expectations which are 1.Hiring the family member to the Business be family business or private business. 2.Promote family members. 3.Share the material resources like cars and  apartment freely. 4.Act unfairly to others in favour of the  family favour. In turn the Owne...

I have seen the Big and small families and lose individuals,there is a big difference.Firstly,let's see who makes the good family.Anyone who comes for the mutual benefit of the family should have the following characteristics: 1.Understanding the family members. 2.Mutuak interest. 3.Love. 4.Tolerance. 5.Happiness and Joy. 6.Unity. 7.Helping each other. 8.Appreciating one another. 9.Uplifting each  other. 10.Sharing 1.Understanding each other  The  basis of two people who understand each other is critical important.Before the two partners  come together must have  a satisfactory understanding of each other. 2.Mutual Interests Mutual Interests will be the common interests or participation in the family activities.Each family is got groups for instance there  Outgoers  who must come together. 3.Love Love is the "cement" of all the actions. It is from within, voluntary,free and sometimes it's blind. 4.Tolerance There's no perfect human being. Tolerance mea...

<script async src="https://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-5675963239963028 crossorigin="anonymous"></script> The above expression is for Advertisers. You may read below: The qualities of the positive family are 1.Love 2.Respect 3.Unity 4.Family members tolerate each other. 5.They know their strengths and weaknesses and compliment each other. 6.They understand each other. 7.The final bond is Unity for Good Purpose not to hurt other people. What has disintegrated  the families? 1.External influences. 2.Jealousy. 3.Laziness 4.Undermining 5.Petty Pride 6.Disrespect 7.Dishonesty 8.Lies The Big Question is can we amend our families? -Yes if we can go to basics like Respect and Honesty. -If we take our families as  Institution where the  natural position  of every member is taken serious like the Child should know what to say to the other members and build the relationship in child perspective simple means not to meddle or i...

<script async src="https://pageads2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js? client=ca-pub-5675963239963028 crossorigin="anonymous"></script> The above expression is for Advertisers. You may read below: There are families which are very peaceful. I have tried to find out the reasons. 1.The Parents of those families built a strong  bond of love. 2.They believed in true Unity. 3.They used to meet from time to time. 4.They did  not spill  out their dirty  linens. 5.There is a common purpose. 1.Strong bond The strong bond was built through appreciation. 2.True Unity The true Unity is built through listening, guidance and do what is right. 3.Meetings from time to time. The  meetings are cementing the unity. They keep abreast about the new development in the family. 4.They don't spill out their dirty linens. There are sometimes misfortunes in the families which may rise  the eyebrows.So, those "secrets" are kept away from the public. 5.Common p...

We all belong to a Big Family of humanbeings. 1.Like  it or not your relative are getting the Government Grants. 2.These are not the Government money,it belonged to us the Taxpayers.The food, cars, houses,roads we are paying some money which is called Tax. 3.So,there is no FREE money. 4.The subsidy is paid  by the Taxpayer. A Taxpayer helps in lowering the Crime. More Police is hired. We are a Big Family,Family of Taxpayer.

What do you do when your family goes nuts? It may happen that the whole family is against you alone or you are two groups in the family or even three groups undermining each other or hating each other or sworn each other. Let's see what you can do: 1.When you are Alone versus the whole group just stay away from them before you  more hurt or even killed.It is better not to communicate to them.If it does happen do it once per year or  in funeral times or stay at the back in ceremonies times. Don't be Father Christmas or Mother Teresa.Even if you can help them,you will remain an "enemy". 2.When you belong to one group. Obviously there are unwritten rules. Find the true characters in your group because when there is a "sellout" who blows fire,then the division will be perpetuated. 3.Three groups Obviously there will be a strong group and the weakest group.Find out from these groups which has the least common values try to bring some of  the members to your group...